Not 'Finding God's Will'

It is amusing to see that only those who believe, profess and defend the concept of ‘Finding God’s will’ come to the crossroads in life where they ask, ‘Should I?’ or ‘Should I not?’ Should I do this or should I not? Should I marry her or should I not? They are mistaken, not knowing the scripture nor the power of God. For God is not the author of confusion but of peace. I Cor 14:33. Though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil. Why? Because ‘for You are with Me.’ Ps 23:4 O you of little faith!

The zealousness of the proponents to the concept of 'Finding God's will' is seen only when contemplating arranged marriage. They seek God's will in marrying a particular girl, after zeroing on the girl based on human wisdom (language, regional, social status, qualification, skin color, physical attractiveness, family background). If when he beginning is stripped of God then the whole process is illegal and void ab-initio.

Arranged Marriage: Bible's Perspective, Part 6

For part 5 in the series, please click, Arranged Marriage, Part 5

Love

Reason number three, absence of mutual love. When you look at a woman or a girl, who is set to be your wife and the future association is bereft of emotions and feelings of love, that look considers the woman as a tool and a commodity to satisfy your sexual passions, which the Bible refers to as the lust of the flesh. If you do not love the person whom you marry, how will you respect that person? If there is no respect for the person, then there is no control over your thought process and resulting actions.

That is the very reason you make snide remarks on her. She is a matter of joke to you in your talks, comments and in your discourses with others. She is made to bear the brunt of your stupidities.

Sex is an integral part of marriage. Sex has to function and enjoyed inside marriage. But when you indulge in sex with a person whom you do not love, it is then only to seek your own pleasure. It is not making love. It is to fulfill your sexual desires. It is wicked. You are only using the other person’s body as a tool to satisfy your lusts. Does not Bible state that marriage is honorable among all and marriage bed is undefiled? Did God not say that He will judge adulterers and fornicators? Heb 13:4

How can a man and a woman come together in marriage in the absence of mutual love and respect and engage in sex? Bible dedicates a whole book, the Songs of Solomon, to the love between a husband and his wife.

You know why you end up with pregnancy within a year of your marriage? Because, since you do not love each other but engage in sex, you do not want to enjoy each other. You do not want to know your wife, understand her and enjoy the company of each other for a while and you headlong into pregnancy. Also, you marry with the false idea that marriage is only for procreation. No, it is not THE number one reason to marry, but surely an important one, out of the many, as God commands in the Bible.

For final part in this series, please click, Arranged Marriage: Biblical Perspective, Part 7